When M entered our world almost two years ago it felt comfortable. He went with the flow, he loved the people around him, slept through almost any noise, and he ate what was given to him. It took him a little extra time (by our standards) to figure out sleeping well through the night, but by 3 months he was doing quite well in that department. His naps were long and consistent. His feeding times were predictable. We knew all along he was very mellow, especially when he didn't walk until 17 months! But it was all OK. Ryan and I felt like we had kind of figured out the baby thing, generally speaking.
THEN CAME S!
I have been trying for the life of me to schedule this one. For those of you who know me, you know life is a schedule for me. Everything must get done and the way for it all to happen is to schedule it all in. Well, try teaching S that things should happen around the same time each day. I think I would even find the flexibility to feed her at different times and put her down for naps at varying times if at least it would help her sleep through the night (then of course I would have the energy to complete my schedule)! And she is 5 months old!
Now for our previous four children we were nearly the poster family for night sleepers. I have been asked for advice on this subject many times. I have suggested, "work on the daytime, and the night will follow". Then there is the "feed her closer together during the day" idea. And many, many more. However, none of these are working. I keep her up until 9pm, I wake her up at generally the same time in the morning, I wake her up from naps, and on and on....
It is very clear to us that she has a super fast metabolism like Z does. We could feed Z all day and he would still have his ribs sticking up a good two inches above the rest of his body when he does a back float in swimming lessons. He really does look nearly mal-nourished sometimes. But both he and S come by it honestly: my grandma used to put a cookie jar on my dad's desk to try and put 'some meat on him'.
So, I am now tackling her food needs with serious determination. We are feeding her cereal in the evening and now adding in bananas with cereal after lunch. And sweet potatoes are out waiting to be cooked and pureed. She has been eating cereal for about 10 days and the bananas for about 4 days. We did have one glorious night, but we have a ways to go. But the real story here is her style of eating.